before you can find the right chick to love you gotta love yourself man welcome to the bedrose
coolian show what's up friends welcome to the bedrose cooling show I'm bedrose coolian and
we're laughing it up right now here um anyway that light there behind me y'all don't even
realize what's going on with that light listen we got an awesome fluorescent light right there
right but it's been hanging off like a weird hook and a chain for ever since the show started six
months ago and I was like hey Ed you think we can push that light into the wall and make it
more professional and now we did and while you can't probably notice the difference in
that fluorescent BK light I can and I feel so good about myself but then in other news
um guys I'm gonna be honest with you I feel like we're all family here and there's a whole bunch
of us in the studio right now before the cameras went on I I saw a piece of hair on my shirt so I
went to Ed's already laughing I haven't cracked the joke yet but it's a true story I went to
pull the hair off of my shirt because I want to look presentable for you guys and I [ __ ] went
to tug on the hair and I felt the pain piece of chest hair had punched through my brand new fuel
hunt shirt right by the way this is violence is a virtue shirt right recently dropped but
uh damn man it's funny when you get old you start growing hair from the weirdest places man I got
hair growing out of my ears every now and again I get weird eyebrow hair that gets long and angry
um but you know what nothing like a good pair of Clippers to solve that problem let's get started
so today on the show we're going to work on you becoming the 10 so that you can find the ten say
what Pedros you're going to teach me how to find a chick yes yes so let's talk about finding the
perfect woman seriously I want to talk to you guys about finding the perfect woman the perfect woman
for you might be different than the perfect woman for me like I've got the perfect woman for me but
your perfect woman could be very different and so we're going to talk through that right now because
one thing I see too often is that men are doing a lot of chasing of women you're spending a lot
of time on these only fans and I got no judgment against anyone that's doing the only fans I'm just
telling you that they are not gonna be there for you keeping you warm at night you're still going
to be by yourself in your mom's basement and your hand and a old gym sock with your shorts around
your ankles the point I'm making here is imagine if you had a warm beautiful body next to you that
you love and respect and who loves and respects you because you guys are equally yoked and this
is what I want to share with you fellas so pay attention listen man every man wants his kingdom
and I started thinking about the sake of a man wants a kingdom and you know this to be true I
know the opposition does not want us to have a kingdom they don't want us to be free thinkers
they don't want us to be independent they don't want us to be financially Sovereign physically fit
what the opposition wants is for you to be dumb and dependent and docile they want you to just be
average but you and I know that the average man inspires no one and we will not be average we
will not live like crop dusters we are made to be [ __ ] fighter jets and so I want to talk to you
about what a man's Kingdom looks like right you want money you want Power you want Legacy you want
impact you also want a woman you want a [ __ ] awesome woman who believes in your dreams and who
you believe in who you're not there to just just to save you're not trying to be a Captain Save
A Hoe for crying out loud and you don't want her to be a Captain Save A Hoe as well right in other
words she shouldn't be there to try and save you she shouldn't be there to complete you you should
be a complete man and you should find a complete woman and I'm going to go through this for you
right because if you don't then what you're really doing is you're spending a lot of time and money
chasing women that are going to give you zero companionship that are going to call you creepy
behind your back and that you're gonna find that you're living an isolated life fellas and all
joking aside like I'm sick and tired of seeing good men like you suffering I'm sick and tired
of seeing good men like you saying that good women don't exist bro good women don't exist women like
that you just described don't exist they do exist they do exist but there's a trick to getting them
and you know what the trick is I'm going to teach you why my one secret strategy you ready for this
you need to become the type of man that attracts the perfect 10 into your life that's the trick
you're like damn that sounds like a lot of work it is but The Human Condition is to do the work isn't
it we're born as human animals to be impulsive to be emotional to be selfish and to want to be lazy
complacent and always seek out Comfort but as you seek out discomfort you get disciplined you start
doing the hard work you challenge yourself you solve your life's problems you make money you
get yoked financially mentally emotionally you start become this this charismatic man
who shines like this beautiful light and it attracts the right woman into your life fellas
as I want to talk to you about that so first off look man I don't know if you're chasing chicks on
social media or Tinder or Bumble wherever you are like you got to stop chasing and you got to start
understanding that when you are chasing women that is the highest form of repellent to a woman that's
just a reality like women don't want needy men who are like chasing them what women want to do is
they want to take notice of you they want to take notice of you because you are different than all
the other guys you stand out and by the way the bar is set so low today fellas that you can easily
stand out just by brushing your teeth combing your hair wearing clothes that fit you and just
having a decent income stream I'm not even saying Be A Millionaire just ain't having a decent income
stream and maybe be able to string a few words together to have a coherent sentence fall out of
your mouth and if you can do that like you're going to be in the top one percentile of men
that's the truth but you've gotten so isolated you're so busy watching uh TV shows and and and
and and and and Screen sucking off social media that you've lost all human connection you've
lost all connection to your higher self to your human being right and so now it's time to do the
self-work to become that 10. so if you're like man I'm not interested in doing that just click off
this episode right now just click off and leave in fact if it's on YouTube give me a dislike and
if it's on anywhere else just give us the [ __ ] finger and say peace because I only want to serve
men who are looking to serve themselves not men who want to Chase and be seen as needy creeps
that's how they see you and by the way the tricks that you're chasing are not even worthy of chasing
because one that have a high body count I guarantee it because you're only chasing women
that you're not intimidated by if you want to know the truth if you have not evolved into the level
10 version of yourself if you're not a it's a 2.0 human that you ought to be then you're chasing
like women that aren't aren't really evolved you're chasing women that might have a high body
count you're chasing women that have low standards you're chasing women that are needy themselves
you're chasing women that are broken and is that the type of woman that you want someone who's
just going to be dependent upon you who's gonna have this emotional roller coaster ride they're
gonna put you through every time no man you want a woman that's equally yoked man who's got your
back who believes in you and who you believe in so that you guys can conquer the world together
because when you find that right woman it's not one plus one is two that one plus one equals two
thousand trust me it's a force multiplier by a factor of 2 000 when you find that right person
but you also have to go out there and become the man to attract that woman or those women
to then out of those women pick the one so let's get started all right so you know that being needy
and chasing is a repellent to women it just is their instincts are designed to go uh oh the more
he chases the more I'm going to push away right that's why there's that terminology like nice guys
always finish last and you know women want bad guys and all that stuff it's not that it's not bad
guys like troublemakers women just want men that are charismatic women want men that are mysterious
women want men that are self-sufficient women want men that are put together women want men
who know how to crack a joke who know how to who know how to show up into a room right like that's
their DNA is designed to be drawn to that because you are you are the apex predator on this planet
that's it it's as simple as that and so they go well I want to be with the guy who can
protect who can provide who is charismatic who can create I can create a family with
who can who can help me with the shelter she can't do all those things by herself there's plenty of
things that women can do that you can't and this is why I say when you track the right woman she's
gonna fill in all of your inequities that you don't have that she does you know when my kids
were smaller and my wife would go on a a girls trip just for a couple days and I'm not talking
about when my kids were babies I'm talking about when they're like five six seven years old I'd say
with my kids for a couple days and I would realize how much they needed mom how much they needed my
wife and their reason was they were still in a phase where they needed mom's safety moms security
moms loving which is very different than how a rough and tumble dad might love right because they
wanted that when my wife wasn't around I felt like I wasn't able to give my kids what they wanted
so your job as a man is to find a woman that can provide that if you want to start a family
and so what else are you looking for then well you want to become the kind of man that you
respect admire and that you love right think about this if you see the if you see someone
you're like man I really like the way that guy carries himself I like the way that guy shows
up he's respectful he's like a Savage but he's a servant that's a good dude right there like
deconstruct him get to know him follow him read his books if you don't know him you follow this
person on social media read their books uh watch their videos like what is it about them and then
start deconstructing that and do it but I can tell you what that man looks like because the man that
you love respect and admire and want to be like like 99 out of 100 these are the traits that they
have one you got to get fit you got to get fit and getting fit is part of the over-encompassing
life resume see my friend Jesse itzler uh if you're wondering who Jesse itzler is Jesse is
married to um Sarah Blakely she owns the Spanx brand uh she's a she's a billionaire now she she
built a billion dollar business and sold at Spanx how awesome is that and Jesse to his own right
has built and sold multiple hundred million dollar multiple hundred million dollar companies right
talk about a power couple right there but Jesse yetzer talks about building your life resume
like yeah you spend your time building your work resume well you know I've worked in nine different
careers and I've moved up in those careers and I had different roles and responsibilities and
I managed so many people and from this day to that date I did this and this was my pay and
by the time I I left that company I was a senior VP executive that's great but what does your life
resume look like nothing much really right nothing really to write home to and the reason that's the
case is because you haven't taken time to excel in life like you have in your work and so what if in
your life resume you started building out your life resume you're like you know what dude I'm
gonna be a fit dude I'm going to be an athletic dude I'm going to be the kind of guy that other
dudes want to look like and I'm going to be the kind of guy that women turn their heads for right
visually First Impressions that's a fit dude right so can you be a fit dude can you work out
can you eat right can you do it consistently for a long period of time and if you can not only do you
become physically fit but you may not know this but exercise is the highest form of antidepressant
like exercise is the best form of antidepressant like you're
sitting there stressed anxious and depressed playing video games avoiding life's realities
escaping through alcohol vaping weed because you don't want to deal with your problems popping
Xanax or whatever the [ __ ] it is you're popping so that you don't have to deal with your thoughts
not once thinking about no [ __ ] doctor is going to prescribe consistent Hard Exercise because
it is the highest form of antidepressant you go work out regularly for six months
five six seven days a week like a [ __ ] Savage you eat right you develop those abs and as you
develop those abs you tell me that your anxiety and depression don't just magically go away
I'm not saying depression doesn't exist it is a clinical thing and maybe maybe one percent of the
people out there who are who say they're depressed are truly clinically depressed the rest of you
you just need to get fit and jacked because in the process of getting fit and jacked in the
process of eating right and doing it for a long period of time you develop traits
that attract women traits of discipline consistency Focus delayed gratification right
being able to do hard [ __ ] stoicism all those things are developed in the gym you know when
you're fighting the iron when you're lifting the weights when you're going for one more set one
more rep adding 10 more pounds to your lift all of those things are signaling signaling to the
opposite sex that this dude has what it takes you need to develop that my friend you also need to
develop the financial muscles the physical muscles aren't enough you need to develop your financial
muscles again I'm not saying that you got to be a multi-millionaire but today there's no reason why
you can't earn 100 150 200 000 a year you know a few weeks ago I did an episode on the four
uh skills that I wish I knew when I was 18 years old the high income skills right sales marketing
copywriting leadership these skills are important for you to know and with any one of these skills
you can break the six-figure financial barrier but when you're making good money you are proud of
yourself see because you're thinking like Pedro's so you're saying I got to make good money so I
can attract a woman so women are attracted to my money no bro women are attracted to
a man who is financially secure and therefore has confidence in himself that he's financially secure
that he's not dependent on a credit card debt that he's not dependent on a Bank debt
or a bank loan or house refinance that you make enough money that you are so proud of
yourself that you manage your money well if you make like a hundred and twenty thousand
dollars a year a basic sales job can get you there right a basic sales job can get
you there I'm talking basic and if you're like an average closer you'd make like a
hundred twenty thousand dollars a year selling something a service over the phone for somebody
you would be like man I'm making them more money than I ever have I'm so proud of myself I paid off
my credit card debts I'm able to give to Charities and causes into my church that I believe in
I'm able to put 10 15 of that away into some kind of a into some kind of a fund a treasury note
an investment where I'm earning five six seven eight nine ten percent interest and you develop
so much self-confidence and self-esteem because in today's world money is power
and a man remember I said a man is looking for for your kingdom power Legacy respect money and
a woman right well to get the woman you have to have those things because when you are proud of
yourself when you are in love with yourself when you're like man if I was gay I'd [ __ ] the [ __ ]
out of myself because that's how [ __ ] awesome I am that's how a chick would feel too seriously
that's how she would feel about you so find what you need to do to start making your money the
internet is free with ideas and solutions YouTube is free with ideas and solutions for you to make
more money even if it's a side hustle and when you do that you begin to become financially whole
and Sovereign and that makes you a very attractive person what else do you want to do if you want to
become a 10 so that you can attract the tens well you want to be interesting think about
this bro how many dudes are boring most of you probably don't even leave the house if you work
from home you probably don't even leave the house because you probably order food and
it's delivered to your house order groceries it's delivered to your house unless you go to the gym
it's probably the only time you leave and if you work and go to the gym then you left once right
the point is you don't have an interesting life and if you're not interesting guys or
girls aren't going to be attracted to you like guys aren't going to want to hang out with you
like what if you can actually be interesting remember the Dos Equis man who was known as
the most interesting man on the planet right like you want to be a modern day James Bond Man
you can it ain't hard think about this I made a list jiu jitsu go to jiu jitsu classes right
improv classes comedy classes like take improv classes comedy classes join a book club right
go to a track like go to a track on a Saturday morning and just start jogging watch all the
people that you meet and think of all the content just all the stuff that I posted here how much
great content you can post on social media showing the world that you are demonstrating that you are
an interesting person you don't have to now go and lie to people anymore you can actually show
the world because if you're doing Jiu Jitsu doing comedy improv classes you know join a book club
I'm not saying you got to do all this pick three of them pick two of them pick one of them [ __ ]
and do it right what about this hiking Spartan races mud runs dude there's so many cool things
you could be out there doing not only do you become interesting and do you forge your higher
self by doing all these things putting yourself out of your comfort zone and therefore becoming
the better version of the man that you want to become the man that you love respect and admire
you are also putting yourself in a position to find and attract the right woman into your life
because she might be on the track she might be on that hike she might be doing that mud run or
Spartan Race she might be in that Jiu Jitsu comedy club or or improv class right think about all the
things that you could do man you can go learn to play the guitar salsa dance you could do so many
things and when you do these things you begin to develop yourself holistically right if you think
just getting jacked and making money is it that's that's a majority of it because that teaches you
so many great traits and discipline and focus and consistency we've talked about that right
but what about being an interesting human what about having hobbies that actually interest you
you wouldn't know if you like any of those or not I wouldn't know that I hated running if I
had not done that Marathon challenge right it turns out I love surfing I love surfing
I love surfing and I would have thought that I wouldn't like it if you asked me in the beginning
but it was a challenge that I did for six weeks I got so good at it I continue to Surf regularly
and I met so many wonderful people at the beach and in the water and just in life in passing when
I'm like hey I surf they're like you did when I come to California I want to surf I'm like
great I got 12 surfboards I bet one of them is the perfect size for you when you come out you
connect with me and I'm gonna take you out surfing make great friends business contacts that way and
just been good to people that way right so think about that there's so many things you can do man
now the next thing I also want you to use to develop Charisma Charisma there's an energy
about charisma the ability to Banter crack a joke be self-deprecating just the right amount
of self-deprecating right to make people laugh because if you can make people laugh if you can
make people think and you can make people cry not by being an [ __ ] but make them cry as you know
how to tell an emotional story man you have got that person eating out of the palm of your hands
right there used to be a time that men would sit around a fire pit and they would tell stories
some were jokes some were heroic stories others were sad stories those days are gone learn to
be charismatic learn to tell stories learn to ask questions and if you're like hey where do I where
do I learn this stuff from there's literally a course called um uh what's it called Layton
Charisma on command Charisma on command by the way it's a great YouTube channel as well the course
also exists you can buy the course I don't own it I don't get any commission from it I don't make a
penny from it I'm telling you to get Charisma on command and just watch the videos go through the
course develop Charisma the ability to Banter make eye contact speak control an audience controller
room man it's such a confidence building skill all these things that I'm sharing
with you here are stacked on top of the other could you imagine if you're at a mud run or a
Spartan Race and you're not just like sitting against the wall waiting for the race to start
because you're charismatic You've Got The Gift of Gab you developed this trait you now know how to
connect with people while you're waiting for the race to start now people are like who the [ __ ]
was that guy that guy was the most interesting man on the [ __ ] in the race here like that's
the dude I want you to be bro when you're that dude guys are going to want to be your friend
and women are going to want to take interest in you they're going to be
attracted to you and then you get to decide who you click with Vibe with share energy with
take them on a date choose the right one you find your 10. so in any rocket science man what else
can you do start healing before you can find the right chick to love you gotta love yourself man
if you if you are like how I was memory I've told you guys this before I was molested as a
kid when I was growing up over and over again by two older boys that [ __ ] me up man that
left a lot of mental emotional scars on me like I didn't trust people I felt used I felt broken
I felt unlovable I felt like I was disposable you can throw me away how do you go through life
trying to meet the right person if you feel that way you have no love for yourself right
so you can imagine then how much healing I had to do to overcome all of that to heal and fall
in love with myself so that I can develop higher confidence have more self-esteem
and when I fell in love with myself I remember people telling me like dude there's something
about you that is just so magnetic so attractive I was like really I started to notice that too
everywhere I would go I would get attention and I realized very quickly that nothing else
about me had changed other than the way I carried myself about how I felt about
myself the confidence right and because of that what I felt I projected as a signal
and when you project a high vibrating signal out you get high vibrational signal humans back
but if you are pessimistic if you hate yourself if you're not confident you have low self-esteem
you feel unlovable and broken you feel anxious and depressed you are still sending out a signal
to the world you know a very low tone energy signal low vibrational signal and then you start
attracting low energy low vibrational people into your life and you're like this [ __ ] is [ __ ]
crazy I'm like yeah bro she is that's because you are not whole you are [ __ ] crazy you are
still broken and I need you to heal I need you to develop self Mastery brother and when you do
you become a magnet for awesomeness right and so as you become a 10 and you stop being boring and
you become more interesting you begin to dress well like you know how many YouTube channels are
dedicated to dressing well just learning how to comb your hair right how to trim your beard right
how to find clothes that fit you like I didn't know I didn't know how so I went on YouTube right
my normal style is Chucks jeans t-shirt and hat but I know dark colors work for me but I didn't
know that at one time and so I was like [ __ ] man I don't know how to dress like there are
videos dedicated to teaching you that for free there are experts out there that have courses
that are coaches out there who will go shopping with you and help you buy a [ __ ] wardrobe
so now imagine you take all of that you're fit you're making more money you are interesting
you have all these Hobbies you are posting about them you're out in the world doing them you are
connecting it with with people you are friends you are you are social oh my God you're not anxious
anymore you're not depressed you are happy you are putting out a positive signal you are whole
you are healed you love yourself bro therefore you are loved by others and guess what happens next
you begin to magnetically attract the right one
it ain't rocket science but it does take work and if you're willing to do that work you will get the
outcome I literally gave you the game plan on how you become the 10 so that you can attract the 10.
but if you stay broken unlovable financially broke dependent desperate addicted Guess what at best
you're going to track the four and it's gonna be like a [ __ ] Mississippi four I'm not even
talking about California for California for just so you know on the scale is a seven in Mississippi
like a [ __ ] Mississippi foreign California is a negative two
and I don't want that for you man you don't need a toothless chick who's dependent on you
but if you're walking around in [ __ ] loose basketball shorts with [ __ ] Cheeto dust in
your belly button living in your mom's basement emotionally distressed can't handle life
that's probably at best what you deserve or maybe a couple of nine dollar a month memberships
to only fans that [ __ ] man you deserve more I want more for you I love you to pieces and that
is why I'm telling you this man so listen I got a little four-step game plan number one don't
isolate yourself be interesting right get out there in the gyms book clubs [ __ ] comedy clubs
like mud runs Spartan races do the thing that's thing number one like I got a program called the
misogi somewhere in the description box if you're on YouTube there's a link to the misogi Andrew can
you make sure to add that in there okay Andrew's gonna add that in there I want you to click that
come to the m challenge there's men and women you're doing interesting stuff we even take
the [ __ ] pictures and give you a video so you don't even have to take pictures of yourself but
do challenging stuff man so that's thing number one thing number two develop yourself develop
your purpose explore your interests right try new things try it with friends go rock climbing
there's probably like like go get go go get a road bike you know road bikes are expensive
you know what Steve Eckhart did he and his son they got a they got like a a 70
bike from Walmart and they went on a a group road bike trip from here to San Diego which
is about 120 miles on a 70 Walmart bike and I think it was like a shitty mountain bike
the point is it doesn't have to be one of those [ __ ] aerodynamic carbon fiber road
bikes that cost a thousand bucks you need to strap on a helmet where your [ __ ] spandex
super suit jump on your Huffy mountain bike I said what's up guys look at me
I'm the most inefficient [ __ ] road bike around the planet Let's Roll like [ __ ] do it do it
number three make Health a priority I'm not just talking about your physical health I'm talking
about your mental health I'm talking about your Financial Health like make it a priority
if you're the type of person that works out at night you haven't made Health a priority the
only the only it's only the two types of people that work out at night are people that haven't
made Health a priority or it's your second workout because I work out at night but that's because I
worked out in the morning I work out at night with my son it's my second workout you know what I mean
so I'm asking you are you going to make Health a priority mental health like read some books
like read some books there's a great book out there uh called how to do the work as in the
work to develop yourself to a better human to heal from your traumas to stop telling yourself these
stories that are limiting your growth there are great books and websites and [ __ ] accounts on
YouTube that you can watch and literally start solving your life's problems so physical health
mental health emotional health Financial Health you can develop that right and then finally
step four fall in love with yourself like be willing to be alone like I would rather be alone
than be with someone who is constantly got me walking on eggshells be with someone who is
unpredictable in her emotions be with someone who is blowing through my money and has no respect for
my money be with someone who doesn't appreciate me but if you healed and you fell in love with
yourself and you were so interesting and you had a good group of friends who are like-minded people
you wouldn't be so desperate to go out and Chase broken [ __ ] instead you'd be out there
doing your [ __ ] thing living your life shining your light so bright sending
out such an awesome [ __ ] signal to the world that you would magnetically attract
the right woman into your life now you know that I'm right about that don't you
but you got to start doing the work my friends and if you're willing to do the work you will
become the highest level version of yourself you will magnetically attract the right woman and then
you can start paying it forward to the men in your life who are chasing instead of attracting
guys thank you so much for watching and listening to this episode of the bedrose cooling show I hope
you got a lot of value from this if you did remember the only transactional exchange that
I ask you for is that you share this message with other men that you pay it forward that
you share to take a [ __ ] screenshot share it on social media leave a comment so that the algorithm
start following me on the different platforms right so that the algorithms begin to share it
with more men because I do believe that we can change the direction of humanity we can change
the direction of men we can change the direction of this country if one man at a time we begin
to heal and grow evolve and become sovereign mentally physically emotionally and financially
guys remember this that averages the enemy success is your responsibility and change
can take place in an instant when you are ready to flip the switch [Music]