before you can find the right chick
to love you gotta love yourself man
welcome to the bedrose coolian show
what's up friends welcome to the bedrose
cooling show I'm bedrose coolian and
we're laughing it up right now here
um anyway that light there behind me
y'all don't even realize what's going on
with that light
listen we got an awesome fluorescent
light right there right but it's been
hanging off like a weird hook and a
chain for ever since the show started
six months ago and I was like hey Ed you
think we can push that light into the
wall and make it more professional and
now we did and while you can't probably
notice the difference in that
fluorescent BK light I can and I feel so
good about myself but then in other news
um guys I'm gonna be honest with you I
feel like we're all family here and
there's a whole bunch of us in the
studio right now before the cameras went
on I I saw a piece of hair on my shirt
so I went to Ed's already laughing I
haven't cracked the joke yet but it's a
true story I went to pull the hair off
of my shirt because I want to look
presentable for you guys and I [ __ ]
went to tug on the hair and I felt the
pain
piece of chest hair had punched through
my brand new fuel hunt shirt right by
the way this is violence is a virtue
shirt right recently dropped but uh damn
man it's funny when you get old you
start growing hair from the weirdest
places man I got hair growing out of my
ears every now and again I get weird
eyebrow hair that gets long and angry
um but you know what nothing like a good
pair of Clippers to solve that problem
let's get started so today on the show
we're going to work on you becoming the
10 so that you can find the ten say what
Pedros you're going to teach me how to
find a chick yes yes so let's talk about
finding the perfect woman seriously I
want to talk to you guys about finding
the perfect woman the perfect woman for
you might be different than the perfect
woman for me like I've got the perfect
woman for me but
your perfect woman could be very
different and so we're going to talk
through that right now because one thing
I see too often
is that men are
doing a lot of chasing of women you're
spending a lot of time on these only
fans and I got no judgment against
anyone that's doing the only fans I'm
just telling you that they are not gonna
be there for you keeping you warm at
night you're still going to be by
yourself in your mom's basement
and your hand
and a old gym sock with your shorts
around your ankles the point I'm making
here is imagine if you had a warm
beautiful body next to you that you love
and respect and who loves and respects
you because you guys are equally yoked
and this is what I want to share with
you fellas so pay attention listen man
every man wants his kingdom and I
started thinking about the sake of a man
wants a kingdom and you know this to be
true I know the opposition does not want
us to have a kingdom they don't want us
to be free thinkers they don't want us
to be independent they don't want us to
be financially Sovereign physically fit
what the opposition wants is for you to
be dumb and dependent and docile they
want you to just be average but you and
I know that the average man inspires no
one and we will not be average we will
not live like crop dusters we are made
to be [ __ ] fighter jets and so I want
to talk to you about what a man's
Kingdom looks like right you want money
you want Power you want Legacy you want
impact you also want a woman you want a
[ __ ] awesome woman who believes in
your dreams and who you believe in who
you're not there to just just to save
you're not trying to be a Captain Save A
Hoe for crying out loud and you don't
want her to be a Captain Save A Hoe as
well right in other words she shouldn't
be there to try and save you she
shouldn't be there to complete you you
should be a complete man and you should
find a complete woman and I'm going to
go through this for you right because if
you don't then what you're really doing
is you're spending a lot of time and
money chasing
women that are going to give you zero
companionship that are going to call you
creepy behind your back
and that you're gonna find
that you're living an isolated life
fellas and all joking aside like I'm
sick and tired of seeing good men like
you suffering I'm sick and tired of
seeing good men like you saying that
good women don't exist bro good women
don't exist women like that you just
described don't exist they do exist they
do exist but there's a trick to getting
them and you know what the trick is I'm
going to teach you why my one secret
strategy you ready for this you need to
become the type of man that attracts
the perfect 10 into your life that's the
trick
you're like damn that sounds like a lot
of work it is but The Human Condition is
to do the work isn't it we're born as
human animals to be impulsive
to be emotional to be selfish and to
want to be lazy complacent and always
seek out Comfort but as you seek out
discomfort you get disciplined you start
doing the hard work you challenge
yourself you solve your life's problems
you make money you get yoked
financially mentally emotionally you
start
become this this charismatic man
who shines like this beautiful light
and it attracts the right woman into
your life fellas as I want to talk to
you about that
so first off look man I don't know if
you're chasing chicks on social media or
Tinder or Bumble wherever you are like
you got to stop chasing and you got to
start understanding that when you are
chasing women that is the highest form
of repellent to a woman that's just a
reality like women don't want needy men
who are like
chasing them what women want to do is
they want to take notice of you they
want to take notice of you because you
are different than all the other guys
you stand out and by the way the bar is
set so low today fellas that you can
easily stand out just by brushing your
teeth combing your hair wearing clothes
that fit you and just having a decent
income stream I'm not even saying Be A
Millionaire just ain't having a decent
income stream and maybe be able to
string a few words together to have a
coherent sentence fall out of your mouth
and if you can do that like you're going
to be in the top one percentile of men
that's the truth but you've gotten so
isolated you're so busy watching uh TV
shows and and and and and and and Screen
sucking off social media that you've
lost all human connection you've lost
all connection to your higher self to
your human being right and so now it's
time to do the self-work to become that
10. so if you're like man I'm not
interested in doing that just click off
this episode right now just click off
and leave in fact if it's on YouTube
give me a dislike and if it's on
anywhere else just give us the [ __ ]
finger and say peace because I only want
to serve men who are looking to serve
themselves
not men who want to Chase and be seen as
needy creeps that's how they see you
and by the way the tricks that you're
chasing are not even worthy of chasing
because one that have a high body count
I guarantee it because you're only
chasing women that you're not
intimidated by if you want to know the
truth if you have not evolved into the
level 10 version of yourself if you're
not a it's a 2.0
human that you ought to be
then you're chasing like women that
aren't aren't really evolved you're
chasing women that might have a high
body count you're chasing women that
have low standards you're chasing women
that are needy themselves you're chasing
women that are broken and is that the
type of woman that you want someone
who's just going to be dependent upon
you who's gonna have this emotional
roller coaster ride they're gonna put
you through every time
no man you want a woman that's equally
yoked man who's got your back who
believes in you and who you believe in
so that you guys can conquer the world
together because when you find that
right woman it's not one plus one is two
that one plus one equals two thousand
trust me it's a force multiplier by a
factor of 2 000 when you find that right
person but you also have to go out there
and become the man to attract that woman
or those women
to then out of those women pick the one
so let's get started all right so you
know that being needy and chasing is a
repellent to women it just is their
instincts are designed to go uh oh the
more he chases the more I'm going to
push away right that's why there's that
terminology like nice guys always finish
last and you know women want bad guys
and all that stuff it's not that it's
not bad guys like troublemakers women
just want men that are charismatic women
want men that are mysterious women want
men that are self-sufficient women want
men that are put together women want men
who know how to crack a joke who know
how to who know how to show up into a
room
right like that's their DNA is designed
to be drawn to that because you are
you are the apex predator on this planet
that's it it's as simple as that and so
they go well I want to be with the guy
who can protect who can provide who is
charismatic who can create I can create
a family with
who can who can help me with the shelter
she can't do all those things by herself
there's plenty of things that women can
do that you can't and this is why I say
when you track the right woman she's
gonna fill in all of your inequities
that you don't have that she does
you know when my kids were smaller
and my wife would go on a a girls trip
just for a couple days and I'm not
talking about when my kids were babies
I'm talking about when they're like five
six seven years old I'd say with my kids
for a couple days and I would realize
how much they needed mom how much they
needed my wife and their reason was they
were still in a phase where they needed
mom's safety moms security moms loving
which is very different than how a rough
and tumble dad might love right
because
they wanted that when my wife wasn't
around I felt like I wasn't able to give
my kids what they wanted
so your job as a man is to find a woman
that can provide that if you want to
start a family
and so what else are you looking for
then well you want to become the kind of
man that you respect admire and that you
love right think about this if you see
the if you see someone you're like man I
really like the way that guy carries
himself I like the way that guy shows up
he's respectful he's like a Savage but
he's a servant
that's a good dude right there like
deconstruct him get to know him follow
him read his books if you don't know him
you follow this person on social media
read their books uh watch their videos
like what is it about them and then
start deconstructing that and do it but
I can tell you what that man looks like
because the man that you love respect
and admire
and want to be like
like 99 out of 100 these are the traits
that they have one you got to get fit
you got to get fit
and getting fit is part of the
over-encompassing
life resume see my friend Jesse itzler
uh if you're wondering who Jesse itzler
is Jesse is married to um Sarah Blakely
she owns the Spanx brand uh she's a
she's a billionaire now she she built a
billion dollar business and sold at
Spanx how awesome is that and Jesse to
his own right
has built and sold multiple hundred
million dollar multiple hundred million
dollar companies right talk about a
power couple right there but Jesse
yetzer talks about building your life
resume like yeah you spend your time
building your work resume well you know
I've worked in nine different careers
and I've moved up in those careers and I
had different roles and responsibilities
and I managed so many people and from
this day to that date I did this and
this was my pay and by the time I I left
that company I was a senior VP executive
that's great but what does your life
resume look like nothing much really
right nothing really to write home to
and the reason that's the case is
because you haven't taken time to excel
in life like you have in your work
and so what if in your life resume you
started building out your life resume
you're like you know what dude I'm gonna
be a fit dude I'm going to be an
athletic dude I'm going to be the kind
of guy that other dudes want to look
like and I'm going to be the kind of guy
that women turn their heads for right
visually First Impressions that's a fit
dude right so can you be a fit dude can
you work out
can you eat right
can you do it consistently for a long
period of time and if you can not only
do you become physically fit
but you may not know this but exercise
is the highest form of antidepressant
like exercise is the best form of
antidepressant like you're sitting there
stressed anxious and depressed
playing video games avoiding life's
realities
escaping through alcohol vaping weed
because you don't want to deal with your
problems
popping Xanax or whatever the [ __ ] it is
you're popping
so that you don't have to deal
with your thoughts
not once thinking about no [ __ ]
doctor is going to prescribe consistent
Hard Exercise because it is the highest
form of antidepressant
you go work out regularly for six months
five six seven days a week like a
[ __ ] Savage you eat right you develop
those abs and as you develop those abs
you tell me
that your anxiety and depression don't
just magically go away I'm not saying
depression doesn't exist it is a
clinical thing and maybe maybe one
percent of the people out there who are
who say they're depressed are truly
clinically depressed the rest of you
you just need to get fit and jacked
because in the process of getting fit
and jacked in the process of eating
right and doing it for a long period of
time you develop traits
that attract women
traits of discipline consistency Focus
delayed gratification right
being able to do hard [ __ ]
stoicism all those things are developed
in the gym you know when you're fighting
the iron when you're lifting the weights
when you're going for one more set one
more rep
adding 10 more pounds to your lift all
of those things
are signaling
signaling to the opposite sex that this
dude has what it takes
you need to develop that my friend
you also need to develop the financial
muscles the physical muscles aren't
enough you need to develop your
financial muscles
again I'm not saying that you got to be
a multi-millionaire
but today
there's no reason why you can't earn 100
150 200 000 a year
you know a few weeks ago I did an
episode on the four
uh skills that I wish I knew when I was
18 years old the high income skills
right sales marketing
copywriting leadership
these skills are important for you to
know and with any one of these skills
you can break the six-figure financial
barrier
but when you're making good money you
are proud of yourself see because you're
thinking like Pedro's so you're saying I
got to make good money so I can attract
a woman so women are attracted to my
money no bro women are attracted to a
man who is financially secure
and therefore has confidence in himself
that he's financially secure that he's
not dependent on a credit card debt that
he's not dependent on a Bank debt
or a bank loan or house refinance
that you make enough money
that you are so proud of yourself that
you manage your money well if you make
like a hundred and twenty thousand
dollars a year a basic sales job can get
you there right a basic sales job can
get you there I'm talking basic and if
you're like an average closer you'd make
like a hundred twenty thousand dollars a
year selling something a service over
the phone for somebody
you would be like man I'm making them
more money than I ever have I'm so proud
of myself I paid off my credit card
debts I'm able to give to Charities and
causes into my church that I believe in
I'm able to put 10 15 of that away into
some kind of a into some kind of a fund
a treasury note
an investment where I'm earning five six
seven eight nine ten percent interest
and you develop so much self-confidence
and self-esteem
because in today's world money is power
and a man remember I said a man is
looking for for your kingdom power
Legacy respect money and a woman right
well to get the woman you have to have
those things because when you are proud
of yourself when you are in love with
yourself when you're like man if I was
gay I'd [ __ ] the [ __ ] out of myself
because that's how [ __ ] awesome I am
that's how a chick would feel too
seriously that's how she would feel
about you so find what you need to do to
start making your money the internet is
free with ideas and solutions YouTube is
free with ideas and solutions for you to
make more money even if it's a side
hustle and when you do that you begin to
become financially whole
and Sovereign and that makes you a very
attractive person what else do you want
to do if you want to become a 10 so that
you can attract the tens well you want
to be interesting think about this bro
how many dudes are boring most of you
probably don't even leave the house if
you work from home you probably don't
even leave the house because you
probably
order food and it's delivered to your
house order groceries it's delivered to
your house unless you go to the gym it's
probably the only time you leave
and if you work and go to the gym then
you left once right
the point is
you don't have an interesting life
and if you're not interesting
guys or girls aren't going to be
attracted to you like guys aren't going
to want to hang out with you like what
if you can actually be interesting
remember the Dos Equis man who was known
as the most interesting man on the
planet right like you want to be a
modern day James Bond Man
you can it ain't hard think about this I
made a list
jiu jitsu
go to jiu jitsu classes right
improv classes comedy classes like take
improv classes comedy classes join a
book club right
go to a track like go to a track on a
Saturday morning and just start jogging
watch all the people that you meet and
think of all the content just all the
stuff that I posted here how much great
content you can post on social media
showing the world that you are
demonstrating that you are an
interesting person you don't have to now
go and lie to people anymore you can
actually show the world because if
you're doing Jiu Jitsu doing comedy
improv classes you know join a book club
I'm not saying you got to do all this
pick three of them pick two of them pick
one of them [ __ ] and do it right what
about this hiking Spartan races mud runs
dude there's so many cool things you
could be out there doing not only do you
become interesting and do you forge your
higher self by doing all these things
putting yourself out of your comfort
zone and therefore becoming the better
version of the man that you want to
become the man that you love respect and
admire
you are also putting yourself in a
position
to find
and attract
the right woman into your life because
she might be on the track she might be
on that hike she might be doing that mud
run or Spartan Race she might be in that
Jiu Jitsu comedy club or or improv class
right think about all the things that
you could do man you can go learn to
play the guitar salsa dance you could do
so many things and when you do these
things you begin to develop yourself
holistically right if you think just
getting jacked and making money is it
that's that's a majority of it because
that teaches you so many great traits
and discipline and focus and consistency
we've talked about that right
but what about being an interesting
human what about having hobbies that
actually interest you you wouldn't know
if you like any of those or not
I wouldn't know that I hated running if
I had not done that Marathon challenge
right
it turns out I love surfing
I love surfing
I love surfing and I would have thought
that I wouldn't like it if you asked me
in the beginning but it was a challenge
that I did for six weeks I got so good
at it I continue to Surf regularly and I
met so many wonderful people at the
beach and in the water
and just in life in passing when I'm
like hey I surf they're like you did
when I come to California I want to surf
I'm like great I got 12 surfboards I bet
one of them is the perfect size for you
when you come out you connect with me
and I'm gonna take you out surfing make
great friends business contacts that way
and just been good to people that way
right so think about that there's so
many things you can do man
now the next thing I also want you to
use to develop Charisma Charisma there's
an energy about charisma
the ability to Banter crack a joke be
self-deprecating just the right amount
of self-deprecating right to make people
laugh because if you can make people
laugh if you can make people think and
you can make people cry not by being an
[ __ ] but make them cry as you know
how to tell an emotional story man you
have got that person eating out of the
palm of your hands right there used to
be a time that men would sit around a
fire pit and they would tell stories
some were jokes
some were
heroic stories others were sad stories
those days are gone learn to be
charismatic learn to tell stories learn
to ask questions and if you're like hey
where do I where do I learn this stuff
from there's literally a course called
um uh what's it called Layton Charisma
on command Charisma on command by the
way it's a great YouTube channel as well
the course also exists you can buy the
course I don't own it I don't get any
commission from it I don't make a penny
from it I'm telling you to get Charisma
on command and just watch the videos go
through the course develop Charisma the
ability to Banter make eye contact speak
control an audience controller room
man it's such a confidence building
skill all these things that I'm sharing
with you here are stacked on top of the
other could you imagine if you're at a
mud run or a Spartan Race and you're not
just like sitting against the wall
waiting for the race to start
because you're charismatic You've Got
The Gift of Gab you developed this trait
you now know how to connect with people
while you're waiting for the race to
start now people are like who the [ __ ]
was that guy that guy was the most
interesting man on the [ __ ] in the
race here like that's the dude I want
you to be bro when you're that dude guys
are going to want to be your friend
and women are going to want to take
interest in you they're going to be
attracted to you and then you get to
decide who you click with Vibe with
share energy with
take them on a date
choose the right one you find your 10.
so in any rocket science man
what else can you do start healing
before you can find the right chick
to love you gotta love yourself man if
you if you are like how I was
memory I've told you guys this before I
was molested as a kid when I was growing
up over and over again by two older boys
that [ __ ] me up man that left a lot of
mental emotional scars on me like I
didn't trust people I felt used I felt
broken I felt unlovable I felt like I
was disposable you can throw me away how
do you go through life
trying to meet the right person if you
feel that way you have no love for
yourself right
so you can imagine then how much healing
I had to do to overcome all of that to
heal and fall in love with myself so
that I can develop higher confidence
have more self-esteem
and when I fell in love with myself I
remember people telling me like dude
there's something about you that is just
so magnetic so attractive
I was like really
I started to notice that too everywhere
I would go
I would get attention
and I realized very quickly that nothing
else about me had changed other than the
way I carried myself about how I felt
about myself the confidence right and
because of that what I felt I projected
as a signal
and when you project a high vibrating
signal out you get high vibrational
signal humans back
but if you are pessimistic if you hate
yourself if you're not confident you
have low self-esteem you feel unlovable
and broken you feel anxious and
depressed you are still sending out a
signal to the world you know
a very low tone energy signal low
vibrational signal and then you start
attracting
low energy low vibrational people into
your life and you're like this [ __ ] is
[ __ ] crazy I'm like yeah bro she is
that's because you are not whole you are
[ __ ] crazy you are still broken and I
need you to heal I need you to develop
self Mastery brother and when you do
you become a magnet for awesomeness
right
and so as you become a 10
and you stop being boring and you become
more interesting you begin to dress well
like you know how many YouTube channels
are dedicated
to dressing well
just learning how to comb your hair
right how to trim your beard right how
to find clothes that fit you like I
didn't know I didn't know how so I went
on YouTube right my normal style is
Chucks jeans t-shirt and hat
but I know dark colors work for me
but I didn't know that at one time and
so I was like [ __ ] man I don't know how
to dress
like there are videos dedicated to
teaching you that for free there are
experts out there that have courses that
are coaches out there who will go
shopping with you and help you buy a
[ __ ] wardrobe
so now imagine you take all of that
you're fit you're making more money you
are interesting you have all these
Hobbies you are posting about them
you're out in the world doing them you
are connecting it with with people you
are friends you are you are
social
oh my God
you're not anxious anymore you're not
depressed
you are happy you are putting out a
positive signal
you are whole you are healed you love
yourself bro
therefore you are loved by others
and guess what happens next
you begin to magnetically attract the
right one
it ain't rocket science but it does take
work and if you're willing to do that
work you will get the outcome
I literally gave you the game plan on
how you become the 10 so that you can
attract the 10.
but if you stay broken unlovable
financially broke dependent desperate
addicted
Guess what at best you're going to track
the four and it's gonna be like a
[ __ ] Mississippi four I'm not even
talking about California for California
for just so you know on the scale is a
seven in Mississippi
like a [ __ ] Mississippi foreign
California is a negative two
and I don't want that for you man you
don't need a toothless chick who's
dependent on you
but if you're walking around in [ __ ]
loose basketball shorts with [ __ ]
Cheeto dust in your belly button living
in your mom's basement emotionally
distressed can't handle life
that's probably at best what you deserve
or maybe a couple of nine dollar a month
memberships
to only fans
that [ __ ] man you deserve more I want
more for you I love you to pieces and
that is why I'm telling you this man
so listen I got a little four-step game
plan number one don't isolate yourself
be interesting right get out there in
the gyms book clubs [ __ ] comedy clubs
like mud runs Spartan races do the thing
that's thing number one like I got a
program called the mussogee
somewhere in the description box if
you're on YouTube there's a link to the
musogi Andrew can you make sure to add
that in there okay Andrew's gonna add
that in there I want you to click that
come to the musoki challenge there's men
and women you're doing interesting stuff
we even take the [ __ ] pictures and
give you a video so you don't even have
to take pictures of yourself but do
challenging stuff man so that's thing
number one thing number two develop
yourself develop your purpose explore
your interests right try new things try
it with friends go rock climbing
there's probably like like go get go go
get a road bike you know road bikes are
expensive
you know what Steve Eckhart did he and
his son they got a they got like a a 70
bike from Walmart and they went on a a
group road bike trip from here to San
Diego which is about 120 miles on a 70
Walmart bike and I think it was like a
shitty mountain bike
the point is it doesn't have to be one
of those [ __ ] aerodynamic carbon
fiber road bikes that cost a thousand
bucks
you need to strap on a helmet where your
[ __ ] spandex super suit jump on your
Huffy mountain bike
I said what's up guys look at me
I'm the most inefficient [ __ ] road
bike around the planet Let's Roll
like [ __ ] do it
do it
number three make Health a priority I'm
not just talking about your physical
health I'm talking about your mental
health I'm talking about your Financial
Health like make it a priority
if you're the type of person that works
out at night you haven't made Health a
priority the only the only it's only the
two types of people that work out at
night are people that haven't made
Health a priority or it's your second
workout because I work out at night but
that's because I worked out in the
morning I work out at night with my son
it's my second workout
you know what I mean so I'm asking you
are you going to make Health a priority
mental health like read some books
like read some books there's a great
book out there uh called how to do the
work as in the work to develop yourself
to a better human
to heal from your traumas
to stop telling yourself these stories
that are limiting your growth
there are great books and websites and
[ __ ] accounts on YouTube that you can
watch and literally
start solving your life's problems
so physical health mental health
emotional health Financial Health you
can develop that
right
and then finally
step four fall in love with yourself
like be willing to be alone like I would
rather be alone
than be with
someone
who is constantly got me walking on
eggshells be with someone who is
unpredictable in her emotions be with
someone who is blowing through my money
and has no respect for my money be with
someone who doesn't appreciate me
but if you healed and you fell in love
with yourself and you were so
interesting and you had a good group of
friends who are like-minded people
you wouldn't be so desperate to go out
and Chase broken [ __ ]
instead you'd be out there
doing your [ __ ] thing living your
life shining your light so bright
sending out such an awesome [ __ ]
signal to the world that you would
magnetically attract
the right woman into your life
now you know that I'm right about that
don't you
but you got to start doing the work my
friends and if you're willing to do the
work
you will become the highest level
version of yourself you will
magnetically attract the right woman
and then you can start paying it forward
to the men in your life who are chasing
instead of attracting
guys thank you so much for watching and
listening to this episode of the bedrose
cooling show I hope you got a lot of
value from this if you did remember the
only transactional exchange that I ask
you for is that you share this message
with other men that you pay it forward
that you share to take a [ __ ]
screenshot share it on social media
leave a comment so that the algorithm
start following me on the different
platforms right so that the algorithms
begin to share it with more men because
I do believe that we can change the
direction of humanity we can change the
direction of men we can change the
direction of this country if one man at
a time we begin to heal and grow evolve
and become sovereign mentally physically
emotionally and financially
guys remember this that averages the
enemy success is your responsibility and
change can take place in an instant when
you are ready to flip the switch
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