feeling lost feeling like a child
feeling like you don't know who you
really are feeling like you don't really
have a sense of purpose in the world
these things are not your fault I know
you might be judging yourself quite
harshly for it I know the inner critic
might be beating the [ __ ] out of you for
it but I just want to tell you you are
not alone today men are the most lost
and confused than men have ever been in
our entire human history and the reasons
for it they just go Way Beyond you man
our young men are so desperate for a
role model you've got [ __ ] like
Andrew Tate who fill the void okay I'm
not fully against the guy but you've got
to admit he's hardly a Marcus Aurelius
is he the World At Large has told you
don't have a sword don't walk around
with a sword that's what they want you
to do the journey that you are on right
now the journey from Boyhood to the
mature masculine this journey sounds
glorious
but it's a genuine existential challenge
right now in this moment you are
currently fighting a battle between two
opposing forces on the one hand we have
what I call existential regression
existential regression is the vortex of
childishness it's this pull towards this
unconscious pull towards the womb it's
being a slave to hedonistic Pleasures
it's addiction it's being a sheep who
just follows what the herd does no
matter what existential regression in a
man can be characterized by one word
avoidance he avoids taking
responsibility for his own life he
avoids accepting the consequences he
avoids making decisions he avoids
difficult questions he avoids commitment
so that's existential regression but
what is
existential heroism heroism is facing
life it's accepting the reality of
mortality everything we love will
eventually fade but the heroic person
the heroic man accepts this he doesn't
see it as a reason to retreat from life
back into the womb he says yes to life
in spite of everything he makes
decisions he takes full responsibility
for his choices and their consequences
he gets off the [ __ ] Sidelines and he
joins the dance a man living from that
heroic energy he might start a business
he might contribute to charity he might
get involved in the community he might
actually form a committed relationship
to somebody he might pursue creative
Endeavors with all of his potential all
this is possible because he isn't living
dominated by fear anymore his life
is now characterized not by avoidance
but by courage what I just described is
the whole battle is the whole hero's
journey of men today and the stakes are
real I've got another couple of videos
on my channel that talks about this
Peter Pan syndrome Man Child issue in
more depth but one thing I didn't
emphasize in those videos is one thing
that I just keep seeing come up in my
with my coaching clients and in my men's
groups and that is a complete lack of
encouragement a complete lack of social
support disconnection loneliness and a
complete lack of Role Models sometimes a
man not only lacks that support
structure that encouraging support
structure not only does he sometimes not
have anyone around at all but sometimes
the people in his life are not only not
helping they're actively bringing him
down they're actually contributing and
feeding his man-child Peter Pan syndrome
existential regressive tendency and this
keeps him stuck as a child it's like a
Vortex that just pulls him in and the
vortex is now being fed by the people in
his life so brother
I want to ask you a question in your
life who is serving your Highest
Potential and who is dragging you down
make a list with two columns write the
names in the list distance yourself from
the people that drag you down or cut
them out completely if you need to do
that and make more time for the people
who serve your Highest Potential so if
you don't have anyone then I challenge
you to join my weekly men's group it's a
Brotherhood of men helping each other be
the best man they possibly can be every
single week I want you to consider a
men's group as your secret weapon in
your battle against psychological
regression and with it you will win that
battle I assure you so click the link in
the description and find out more it
happens every single week and I look
forward to seeing you on the calls king
take care of yourself and I will see you
next time